Fear or Hope? The Choice is Yours

Fear. I get it. I’ve had it. I will feel it again.

FearWhat fuels our fear? Where do I begin…

Media fuels our fear for ratings. Politicians fuel our fear for votes. Terrorists fuel our fear in an effort to “win” a war most of us do not acknowledge. Some parents fuel fear in their children by helicoptering them in a mistaken effort to “keep them safe.” And one of the worst types of fear, SHE friends, is the irrational kind – the one that we create in our own heads that fuels our insecurities, a decreased self-esteem and our inability to move forward.

My city is fighting its fear right now. Our country is battling its fear right now. Individuals, by virtue of their skin color are trying to deal with their fear right now.

Many of us, SHE friends, trying to discover our “what’s next” in our personal and professional lives are paralyzed by fear right now. Heck, this very post about fear might be instilling fear in you at this very moment.

So what is the antidote to this polarizing condition?


Everything that fuels hope is an action. Everything that fuels hope is a choice.

My hope comes from tackling the world with POSITIVITY, not anger.

My hope comes from FAITH that God will give me and all of us what we need to work through the difficult times.

My hope comes from the UNITY that so many people have exhibited in my city and across the country. My city transitioned from horror to #PrayforDallas to #DallasStrong in just one week because we came together with a common goal.

My hope comes from BELIEVING IN MYSELF in the good times and in the not so good times, knowing that I am fully equipped from the inside-out with the tools I will need to make good decisions or to recover from the not so good decisions.

My hope comes from offering and receiving the LOVE that those closest to me continue to offer, unconditionally.

My hope comes from the giving SUPPORT and acknowledging the SUPPORT I witness at every one of my Women In Business events, where professional women come together to network with and support other entrepreneurial women.

IMG_1719My hope comes from offering a simple SMILE to all those I encounter throughout my day with the hopes that those individuals will “pay it forward” with a smile to those they encounter.

My hope has a glossary of terms I keep with me always, along with a big heart, a desire to make the world a better place and a deep-seated joy: Positivity, Faith, Unity, Believing in Myself, Love, Support and a Smile. That is where I find my HOPE.

I encourage each of you to take a moment this week to OBSERVE yourself and others. What do you fear? Not just on a global or national level, but you personally. What do you fear? How is that fear keeping you from accomplishing your “what’s next?”

Now ask yourself, “What is the worst that could happen if I step over my fear and just DO IT?”

What gives you hope? Each of us has the ability to find that hope from our deepest SHE self. Can you tap into that well of hope? How do you access it? For me, it is in my quietest moments that hope exists. It is also in living a life of awareness, both of what is inside of me and what is going on around me. Hope can be found when we are not blinded by fear that is instilled in us by others or that we instill in ourselves.

Experience yourself and your everyday life this week with eyes wide open, conquer your fear with HOPE and spread it around generously.  You’ve Got This!


Note from the SHE Files: Choose HOPE!






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Linda Howard
5 years ago

Eleanor Roosevelt said “Do one thing that scares you everyday” So when ever I have a task that screams “you can’t do this” I remember her quote (Anna Eleanor Roosevelt October 11, 1884 – November 7, 1962) was an American politician, diplomat, and activist.[1] She was the longest-serving First Lady of the United States, having held the post from March 1933 to April 1945 during her husband President Franklin D. Roosevelt’s four terms in office,[1] and served as United States Delegate to the United Nations General Assembly from 1945 to 1952.[2][3] President Harry S. Truman later called her the “First… Read more »