2016 was a great year in some ways; 2016 was a tough year, too. Of course, I guess that could be true for just about every year, and every person reading this. As my 2016 came to a close, I felt myself more stressed than usual, feeling like I was one breath away from crumbling. I felt tired. All these things were going on inside of me, yet I couldn’t really put my finger on the issue.
So what did I do? I headed back to my yoga mat for some deep breathing and tension-releasing movement. Before a yoga class in December, my yoga instructor and dear friend of over 20 years could sense my tension and asked about it. I expressed to her that I was tired…of DOING. Yep, I was just tired of having action verbs in my life and needed a break. Her next words before I headed into the yoga studio and my mat were simple, yet profound. She said, in reference to my comment about being tired of climbing dream ladders and achieving goals, “Darlene, that is your nature. You are a woman of excellence, so climbing and achieving is what you do.”
I took that to the mat and marinated in it for an hour and fifteen minutes. I breathed, I moved and I pondered.
I headed home, climbed into my bed, even though it was 10:30 in the morning and I cried. When Scott came into the room from his cycling ride, he was alarmed that I didn’t want to do anything we had planned that day; I just wanted to stay in bed, watch the Hallmark channel and cry. And in the course of that cleansing and sobering cry, I turned a corner.
You see, SHE friends, when I was looking for how to head into 2017, I was looking for a little time off at the end of 2016 to simply recharge my battery to go into 2017 with a renewed energy– to do what I had done the previous year. Sort of like washing our hair, getting all the nasties out…you know: lather, rinse, repeat? But amidst the tears, I had a huge “aha” moment.
The end of 2016 was NOT about recharging a battery and getting a do-over of the “same old, same old.” No, it was a reset button. 11 days off, time with my children and a LOT of yoga helped me see what 2017 was going to be about for me. I found this cool site, Daily Om, and decided to use it as a supplement to guiding a true SHE transformation in 2017. No worries, I’m still working at Veritex Bank, still leading our Women in Business Program and still building and enjoying my business as an Independent Senior Director with the India Hicks Lifestyle Collection. The WHAT I am doing is not the transformation; my transformation is about the HOW I am doing just about everything I do.
So in 2017, no “lather, rinse, repeat” for me. In 2017, my 51st year in this body on this earth living this life, there will be no “New Year’s Resolution” for me. In 2017, I have hit my reset button and I am ready to “do life” a bit differently than I did it in my first 50 years. It’s all about the “approach.” I hope you will sign up to receive my blog every Sunday evening and ride the journey with me. Together we are SHE: the walking, talking beings of Strength, Health & Essence.
HAPPY NEW YEAR! It’s time to love the life I’m creating…
Note from the SHE Files: Say “NO” to Lather, Rinse, Repeat